Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying Book Giveaway 2 Winners and Review 3/21


If you are a parent that is dealing with or concerned about the issue of bullying in your chidl(ren)’s schools, Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and Rediscovering the Power of Character and Empathy is a must-read. Emily Bazelon confronts this difficult topic with case studies and a practical guide on bullying. Two Moms Own Words readers will win a copy of Sticks and Stones.

Sticks and Stones Review

I have two young boys in grade school and my oldest is about to start middle school in the fall. Bullying is a concern of mine as they get older. My two boys are kind, sensitive souls who may someday fall prey to the cruelty of their peers.

While we haven’t been raising them to be hateful, I suppose they could easily get caught up in behavior that could be labeled as bullying. Just read the chapter called Flannery and you will see how a few isolated incidents (were only part of a series of events that) led to the suicide of Pheobe Prince. It was fascinating to read the true details that the author exposes of this famous case. She spent lots of time interviewing the “bullies” including Flannery. There was much more to this story than the media would report- getting to the bottom of this story was as difficult as investigating a crime.

This book was so interesting to me because it includes the complete stories of two kids who were the victims of bullying – Monique and Jacob. Starting with the very first incidents and ending with the resolutions. The third story is about Flannery, one of the bullies in the Pheobe Prince case.

The fact is, bullying is not just confined to our schools. It is on our screens, laptops, smartphones, on social media sites. It’s everywhere. According to the author, prevention campaigns in schools and awareness are proven ways to defeat bullying. Kids must be reminded that bullying isn’t the norm. Kids need to understand that cruelty is the exception, not the rule.

“The key is to remember that almost everyone has the capacity for empathy and decency – and to tend that seed as best as we possibly can.”

The book teaches that often kids will bully because they stand to gain from it in terms of social status. The problem is to dismantle that kind of informal reward system. Adults, also play a role in bullying stories, by either their apathy or by doing too much in response to the situation.

The PBIS system has been used by many schools and it has helped with bullying. The acronym means “positive behavioral interventions and supports.” PBIS wasn’t designed to address bullying directly, however, a 2012 study revealed that teachers in PBIS schools reported less bullying and peer rejection than teachers in schools without PBIS.

Most significant for parent’s is to know their responsibility for their child’s well being. It’s a fine balance between engaging with them and knowing when to leave them alone. We have to know how much freedom to give our kids in the physical and the virtual world.

According to the author, awareness is the first step to preventing bullying and to helping kids through it. The book includes an FAQ section and resources. It’s a fascinating read as well as invaluable guide to bullying.
In the following video, Emily talks about her book on Morning Joe

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About Sticks and Stones

STICKS AND STONES is a groundbreaking and indispensable guide to understanding teenage cruelty in the Internet era, why it’s come to feel so inescapable, and what parents, educators, advocates, and kids can do about it.  We hope you will consider this important book for coverage this coming March.

ISBN 9780812992809 e-Book ISBN 9780679644002

About the Author

EMILY BAZELON is a senior editor at Slate, a contributing writer at The New York Times Magazine, a frequent guest on Comedy Central’s The Colbert Report, and the Truman Capote Fellow at Yale Law School.  Before joining Slate, she worked as a law clerk on the U.S. Court of Appeals for the First Circuit.  She is a graduate of Yale College and Yale Law School, and lives in New Haven with her husband and two sons.  This is her first book.

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Sticks and Stones is available on in hardcover, ebook and audiobook formats.

Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying Book Giveaway

Two Moms Own Words readers will win a copy of Sticks and Stones. The first winner drawn will get first pick of audio book or hard cover.
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Kristi Maloney is a work from home mom to two boys ages 10 and 13. Since 2009, she has featured in-depth product, and book reviews and hosted high-quality, exciting giveaways on her blog Moms Own Words. When she is not blogging, you can find her working at her son’s school, or behind the wheel of her car in the roll of “taxi driver”. Email at maloney(dot)Kristi@gmail(dot)com.

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  1. says

    Thanks for stopping by to my site today! I have a first grader that has a bit of a mean streak. I think this book would be a powerful tool. She’s never too learn respect and about being polite. Thank you Kristi!

  2. Lisa says

    I talk to my daughter everyday about bullies and how to treat others in school and how they should treat her. Would love other sources to help me out in my talks to my kids

  3. Carl says

    This is one of the most important issues of our time. If we can control bullying in schools and make parents and children aware of its harmful effects we can create a whole new generation of adults with a better understanding of how to work together in all aspects of life. Thanks for the chance to win this important book.

  4. Adrienne says

    I am employed as an outpatient mental health counselor with children diagnosed with multiple disorders. I was moved by your interview on NPR and would absolutely benefit ( as well as share this information with the staff) to better serve our clients! Our site is in a low income suburb outside of Philadelphia, where the services are greatly needed as bullying is part of the daily environment.

  5. Nicole M says

    I’ve actually already finished (and very much enjoyed) this book on my kindle. Would love to win a DTB copy to lend out to my friends!

  6. says

    My middle child has autism. We fight bullying in a lot of places–not just school. Even in the store, people can be terrible to me and to him.

  7. Debbie Welchert says

    I would really love to read this book. I am really concerned about my grandsons. One is really sweet and has been bullied already and one is on his way to becoming a bully. Maybe I could learn something from this book.

  8. says

    I have young kids and am so worried about bullying. I want to make sure I can interfere effectively if needed – without making matters worse.

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